Find a Weekly Wish-Weaving Partner Part 2
Once you have found the appropriate person to be your weekly WW partner, here is the format you will use for your weekly calls (or in person meetings, or chats, or however you choose to proceed.)
First, however, a reminder…you want a partner who is committed, accountable, growth-oriented and positive.
If your partner (please don’t be this person) is a “flake”, this process won’t work at all. Signs of “flakiness” include: Not showing up or calling on time or at all, making excuses for being late or canceling frequently (by frequently I mean more than like once with a REALLY good reason), focusing more on why you can’t realize your dreams than why you CAN tap into the six degrees to your dreams. So, don’t be a flake and if your partner is a flake, quickly find another one.
This is how the process works. Before you have the first call or meeting, complete your ME NOW exercise and narrow down what desired changes, dreams, goals, ideas you want to work on first.
It’s helpful to have any perceived obstacles (one to three) identified as well. To identify a perceived obstacle, simply say to yourself, “I could do X right now if it wasn’t for Y.” X is your dream. Y is your perceived obstacle.
In my experience, money is very often the Y, but that is a whole other blog post for another time. Other people, especially those you share a household with, are very often another Y; that’s not just a whole other blog post but an entire series of books (one I will not be writing) for another time. For now, just trust that whatever your perceived obstacle, your Y, is…once you commit to opening your mind to alternative avenues in a wish-weaving format, you will begin to find them. Probably more quickly than you anticipated.
In the first call/meeting:
*Set a time limit if you need to and divide the time equally with your partner.
*Share your top one to three things to work on, then the one to three challenges.
*Establish the ongoing communication with your partner right from the beginning. It’s important to review your challenges, progress, and opportunities over the past week in a heartfelt, completely honest, and compassionate manner. If something really difficult happened in the last week and you’re not ready to share the details yet, you can sum up the feeling of what the event was and share when you are ready.
*At the end of the session, set your intentions, write your next steps down (yours and those of your partner, while your partner is doing the same) and post them where you will see them every day.
*Hold the vision and see yourself and your WW partner accomplishing your steps and purpose throughout the week in whatever manner works for you – visualization, positive thought, prayer, meditation, journaling are all good options, and you can likely come up with more on your own.
*Pick up at the same time the following week!
If you both are committed, meet on time, and find yourself growing through perceived obstacles and challenges, while giving each other substance and sustenance to move forward – even if one of you, or both – has had a bad week…then you’ll know you and your partner are on track. This is a WW partner you want to hang onto for as long as it works for you both. It could be a few weeks, it could be a few years…who knows?…maybe even for life.
If you have questions, are interested in the process, or have tried something similar in the past, please post your comments on my blog! I read and treasure every one.
Whenever your old programmed mind automatically says, “I can’t…” or “I should…” pay close attention to what comes afterwards. Whatever your old mind thinks you can’t do is likely precisely what you should. Whatever your old mind thinks you should do is likely precisely what you shouldn’t. –Laura Handke www.laurahandke.com
Authentically Yours,
Laura