Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. All You Need to Be is Exactly Who You Are: Don’t Buy Any Other Story

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. All You Need to Be is Exactly Who You Are: Don’t Buy Any Other Story

All You Need to Be is Exactly Who You Are: Don’t Buy Any Other Story

Enlightenment is like the moon reflected in a dewdrop on a blade of grass. The moon does not get wet, nor is the drop of water broken… And the whole moon and entire sky are reflected in even one drop of water. –Dogen

The lovers and friends that have helped me stay alive and be more fully alive have come into my life like Dogen’s moon—all of their love, as big as the sky, fills my heart and yet I did not become them, but only more myself.

Anything or anyone that asks you to be other than yourself is not holy, but is trying only to fill its own need. -Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

When I was preparing to leave the world of insurance claims and launch a business dedicated to helping people express their inner and outer voices, Mark Nepo’s http://marknepo.com/ words in The Book of Awakening were dear friends. Always comforting, always propelling me forward, always reminding me who I truly am inside.

I know it’s no coincidence that I read his words again this morning, July 11th, 2017. Tuesday is my blog content writing day, and this year, Nepo’s words fell into me again on a Tuesday.

Let’s look at that one sentence again…Anything or anyone that asks you to be other than yourself…is trying only to fill its own need.

When your parents told you to be quiet, it had nothing to do with you or your noisiness; it had to do with their need for peace.

When your ex said you were too clingy; s/he needed independence and privacy.

Now strap it backwards and think of when you’ve said someone should change. Close your eyes for a minute, let memory move you, and come up with just one.

It wasn’t about them at all, was it? It was about how you wanted to feel after they had made that one change.

When I was married and step-mother of three teenage boys, I purchased this special vintage bowl from an antique shop, and I loved it. It was the perfect size, the perfect color…one of those rare finds you won’t run across in a big box store or the china department. The boys decided it was the perfect size for an entire batch of macaroni & cheese from a box, the only thing they knew how to cook besides frozen pizza. They could eat straight from it with a big spoon.

I wonder how much time and energy I expended worrying they would break the bowl or asking them NOT to use it for macaroni & cheese, before Derek, a Marine, was killed at the age of 21 by a roadside bomb in Iraq, as his father and I were divorcing.

I still have the bowl.

It’s complete, whole, unbroken.

Authentic Performance Voice Lab Friday July 21st 4:00 – 6:00 at Sacred Money Studios & Prosperity Pie Shoppe! Speak about your passion with passion and inspire people to work with you.

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Authentically Yours, Laura

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. The Past, The Future, and NOW. What a Present!

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. The Past, The Future, and NOW. What a Present!

The Past, The Future, and NOW. What a Present!

I don’t know if it’s menopause or what, but I’ve been feeling nostalgic lately. I’ve remembered things I’d forgotten, and have more feeling associated with both memories from the past and visions of the future. These feelings are all over the map. If physicians tested emotions like they do blood pressure, my doctor would probably prescribe something.

Are any of you readers experiencing the same thing? If so, please let us know on the blog!

For example, I remember the time my friend, Jeff, invited me to stay at Bob Hope’s house in Palm Springs. This story has come up so often in conversation I finally decided to write a speech about it. Writing the speech and compiling the photos brought up memories and emotions.

On the other end of the spectrum, when I envision my future and the direction my business is heading, I sometimes feel overwhelmed or under-prepared. Then, 15 minutes later, I realize I’m not dreaming nearly big enough.

I don’t think there’s a pill or supplement for this. Meditation, even if for just 15 minutes in the morning, certainly helps. Yoga. Walking outside – as often as possible, for as long as possible.

The past is in the past. The future isn’t here yet. All we have is right now. We’ve heard this so many different times, from so many different people, it sounds like a cliché, right?

But what else do we really have? Where can we find the deepest connection with ourselves and the fullest sense of peace? Right here. Right now. In the only moment we truly have – this one, right here.

Mary Morrissey http://www.marymorrissey.com/ has said:

1-Look for the good in everything.

2-Keep the past in the past; Glance at it with a kind eye.

3-Forgive everyone, including yourself, for everything, all of the time, without exception.

4-Approach your work each day as sacred.

5-Amplify the good (self, others, the world; higher good.)

This is very good advice. Let’s all take it, shall we?

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Authentic Performance Voice Lab Friday July 21st 4:00 – 6:00 at Sacred Money Studios & Prosperity Pie Shoppe! Be brave and honor your voice. Clients are raving.

Authentically Yours, Laura

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. It Looks Like a Knot, But it’s Not

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. It Looks Like a Knot, But it’s Not

It Looks Like a Knot, But it’s Not

I have a messy cat.

I mean, I love my kitty, Lady Jane, like crazy, and so does “Papa” (my partner, George.) All the same, she’s the messiest cat I’ve ever lived with. When she eats, little pieces of food pop out of her bowl onto the rug underneath. She doesn’t always poop directly in the litter box, a source of consternation for “Mama” and “Papa,” for sure. And litter sticks in her paws like no other cat I’ve known – she tracks litter all over the house.

So, we do a lot of floor cleaning around here. Because of the kitty litter issue alone, I vacuum the carpet in the master bedroom almost every day.  A couple of weeks ago, the vacuum cord got tangled and when I went to straighten it out, all I did was make it worse. I had to unplug the cord and wind the plug through the tangled areas to get it straightened out.

The same thing happened again today, but this time I noticed while the vacuum cord looked tangled, it actually wasn’t. All I needed to do was shake it out and the cord magically untangled itself.

If you just let it relax and shake it out, it untangles itself.

How like our minds!

The thoughts we entertain inside our heads can become so convoluted they negatively impact our relationships, our performances and public speaking, our experience of life any given day.

What a great thing to remember every time you grab the vacuum cleaner, huh?

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Authentic Performance Voice Lab Friday July 7th 4:00 – 6:00 at Sacred Money Studios & Prosperity Pie Shoppe! Speak about your passion with passion and inspire people to work with you.

Authentically Yours, Laura

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. When I Was Asked at Safeway What Kind of Bread to Use for French Toast

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. When I Was Asked at Safeway What Kind of Bread to Use for French Toast

When I Was Asked at Safeway What Kind of Bread to Use for French Toast

When I grocery shop, it’s with a list.

I wrote a cookbook, and I know my recipes. I know when I’m getting close to out of an ingredient, and that ingredient goes on the list. Thyme. Eggs. Red bell pepper.

I’m not one to wander through the aisles looking at possibilities; I know what I want. Usually, I shop for groceries at Albertson’s. Or Safeway, or Trader Joe’s. Occasionally a display of something on sale or special grabs me. That featured seedless watermelon smells and feels so ripe, juicy and delicious you would be a fool to pass it up.  (Did you know watermelon also makes a delicious shake with vanilla ice cream?)

One day a young woman approached me to ask what kind of bread she should use for French Toast. She was probably 20ish years old, and the child with her, perhaps seven or eight. I got the impression she was an overnight or weekend babysitter, perhaps for a young relative. The two were checking out every kind of bread in the Safeway bakery section, because it was the first time the woman had ever made French Toast.

I know what kind of bread I use (the multi-grain I always have in the freezer,) but that had nothing to do with her question “What is the best kind?”

That simple question got me out of my box and thinking about new alternatives…something we can all do all the time, about everything.

We three explored together. I gave the woman a tip to put vanilla, cinnamon and nutmeg in the egg and milk mixture.

Eventually, she chose a traditional, hearty, white bread in a plastic bag.

What a great place to start, huh? She’ll likely expand from there, and so will the child she was with. Maybe one day they’ll bake homemade French bread together and use it for French Toast.

Either way, for me, it was a good reminder to step outside of “what I’ve always done,” explore what might be a better way, and be open to new possibilities.

Have you had an experience like this recently? Share it with us on the blog!

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Authentic Performance Voice Lab Friday July 7th 4:00 – 6:00 at Sacred Money Studios & Prosperity Pie Shoppe! Speak about your passion with passion and inspire people to work with you.

Authentically Yours, Laura

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. You Have to Actually Do it

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. You Have to Actually Do it

You Have to Actually Do It

I love to read.

Do you?

Where’s your favorite reading nook? Let us know on the blog.

I prop up my pillows in bed, put a cup of tea on the nightstand, and pull out my favorite book at that moment.  Lady the cat lays by my side. She purrs.

I anticipate this time…one of the best times of the day.

I read fiction, like currently The Last Time I Was Me, by Oregon writer, Cathy Lamb http://cathylamb.org/, business books, inspirational material, memoirs. Aaaah, I’m in my bliss!

I’ve learned so much from reading and writing books. Books enlighten, inspire, drive and expose me. Books comfort me.

Yet, you can’t learn everything from a book.

Sometimes you can’t learn anything from a book.

Some things you must participate in, and experience physically, to grow. To understand. To incorporate.

Working with the voice and emotions on stage is one of those things.

The next voice Lab is July 7th – get ready and come on down to Multnomah Village!

And check out Seth Godin’s post here.

A professional stumbler

Leo’s working hard to do something he’s never done before. He’s just turned one, and he doesn’t know how to walk (yet).

There are no really useful books or videos on how to walk. It’s something he has to figure out on his own. But instead of waiting on the couch until the day he’s ready to proudly strut across the room, he’s there, on the floor, every day, trying it out.

He’s already discovered a hundred ways that don’t work, and stumbled countless times.

But he persists.

I don’t know about you, but this is precisely the way I learned how to walk as well.

In fact, it’s the way I learned how to do just about everything important. By doing it.

Laura Handke is a pro at what she does. I came away more confident and excited. Thank You, Laura. –Kym G-C.

Honor your inner voice enough to express it outwardly. The people who need to hear what you have to say will thank you.

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Authentic Performance Voice Lab Friday July 7th 4:00 – 6:00 at Sacred Money Studios & Prosperity Pie Shoppe! Speak about your passion with passion and inspire people to work with you.

Authentically Yours, Laura

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. Find Your Three Things

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. Find Your Three Things

Find Your Three Things

Who among us hasn’t had worry keep us up at night? It could be a presentation the next day for the sale of a lifetime, an argument with a loved one, a pending surgery date…even an exciting trip laced with concerns about oversleeping and missing the shuttle to the airport, or how the dog will do in boarding.

Worrying is just…human. We all do it from time to time.

The problem comes when frequent fearful thoughts impact the quality of our life and/or we let fear stop us from moving ahead with whatever our authentic self wants to express or create in the world next.

I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened. –Mark Twain

I’ve been conscientiously monitoring and changing the quality of my thoughts for over 15 years, but that doesn’t mean I’m free of the worry bug. My insecurities, doubts and fears hit from time to time just like they do everyone on the planet, (except for perhaps the Dalai Lama…?) I’ve just developed tools to deal with them, like:  1) Breathe. 2) Find Your Three Things – the topic of free authentic expression video tip #5.

Courage is doing what you are afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared. –Eddie Rickenbacker

We’re all good at certain things. The training evaluations I’ve handed out and compiled over the years provide me with written feedback, “proof” if you will, that I’m a good teacher. I’m able to explain a skill or concept in a way that makes sense to people and inspires them, especially with the dynamic give and take of voice training.

You will not, however, find me taking apart and putting back together a motorcycle engine (I’ll leave that to my cousin Brian) or offering to play harmonica in anyone’s band (I know exactly one song and I don’t play Oh! Susanna all that well anyway.)

What I could do (aside from giving you an amazing voice lesson) – like right now, if anyone were to ask  – is show you how to make a meatloaf, twice baked potatoes, broccoli with homemade cheese sauce, and a cucumber salad. That is a meal I can easily make without referring to any recipes or notes.

Maybe your authentic self wants to learn to cook. Or play a musical instrument. Or learn a new dance or sport. Or quit your job and do something different. But it feels just a little scary. That’s where your three things come into play. Watch the video, allow yours to come, and write them down. They will become very good friends.

Courage is fear that has said its prayers. –Dorothy Bernard

Excitement is fear in a sequined dress. –Patricia J. Hutchings

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Voice Lab Friday June 16th 4:00 – 6:00 at Sacred Money Studios & Prosperity Pie Shop! Speak about your passion with passion and inspire people to work with you.

The header image on this blog post is called “Transmutation: called from the ashes.”  What gorgeous art! Acrylic, pouring medium and ink. You can reach the artist at stephanie@wildsoulartistries.com.

Authentically Yours, Laura