Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. What’s the Problem with Most People’s Voices?

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. What’s the Problem with Most People’s Voices?

What’s the Problem with Most People’s Voices? 

What’s the problem with most people’s voices? Absolutely nothing, other than a few bad habits to unlearn. Everyone has a beautiful voice within, just waiting to come out.

Yet people say things like: “I couldn’t carry a tune if it was packed in my luggage.” Or, “People can’t hear me. Even my husband is constantly asking me to speak up. I don’t think I speak softly – I don’t get what’s going on!” They get hoarse while talking on the phone with clients, even after just a few minutes, or panic when they need to speak in public.

Is that you? I hear these complaints from students all the time. And none of it is necessary!

All it takes is learning how to speak on the breath, with resonance, in your most natural pitch, the place where your authentic voice most wants to land, to express itself, to reach people. It’s so simple. Not necessarily easy, yet simple all the same.

Exciting things are coming up to explore these details of the authentic voice in more detail! On TV Toastmasters Sunday, I’ll be interviewing Lenny Gotter, who is uncovering his big, tenor, operatic voice. I’m in the process of developing a workshop with a colleague (hush, hush for now; you, my readers will be the first to hear) to bring to school systems.

In the meantime, you can listen to this audio blog from the wonderful Billy Atwell on his FEAR NOT podcast, and make comments: https://www.livingbeyondyourfears.com/laura-handke-teaches-us-connection-fear-breath/. And, please join me LIVE on FACEBOOK Friday March 23, 2:30 pm PST.

I sound confident! I didn’t realize how much I needed you. -Dona C

Laura Handke’s Transformational Voice® therapy lessons are wonderful! She is a treasure trove of valuable information about voice, speaking, singing and acting. Laura guides you in understanding how your own voice “works” and provides easy practices to do between appointments. I want to thank Laura for being a very warm, encouraging, supportive vocal coach. I warmly recommend her.

-Paivi PV

Laura helped me find my truer voice. After just one lesson, I already feel more resonance, and more ease and comfortability in singing. Thank you.

-Levi P

I first met Laura a few years ago at a speaking event, where she lead one of the most fun and memorable workshops I have ever attended. More recently, I worked with her one-on-one to help me improve my vocal skills, both as a professional speaker as well as professional singer. She met me right at my level, and helped me tremendously. I am better on both fronts for working with her.

I highly recommend Laura: Hire her for your next event, and she will WOW your attendees with her fun, interactive style, or work with her one-on-one to improve your own vocal skills!

-Michelle M

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If you’re ready to bring your inner voice into the outer world, text or call 503.409.0421! I have five spaces open for private voice students – in person or online.

Lake Oswego’s Transformational Voice® Teacher (Transformational Voice® is a registered trademark of Transformational Voice® Training Institute, LLC, and Linda Brice),

Laura

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. On Grief

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. On Grief

On Grief

You may remember I have a part-time job on Thursdays at a chiropractic clinic. On those Thursdays, I’ve gotten to know some amazing people. One man, whom I will refer to as “T”, often came in with his young daughter. The girl’s mother came in for adjustments from time to time as well.

Late December, I read a post from a friend on Facebook that the girl and her mother died in a car accident on Christmas Day. They were heading to the Mount Hood area on snowy Highway 26, and the car lost traction, heading into oncoming traffic.

I barely knew any of them, yet my heart sunk down in my chest all the same. T had always struck me as someone I wanted to get to know better. I felt this strange kinship with him, in ways I can’t explain.

I contacted Doc at the clinic, asking if she had heard about this. She had, and said she felt so bad for T, yet didn’t know how to reach out to him – what to say, or do.

I didn’t either, but I reached out to someone who did, my dear friend and colleague Natalia Volz. Natalia lost her husband to pancreatic cancer several years ago and is now a grief guide. http://www.passingthroughgrief.com/.

Natalia said: Sometimes there are no perfect words, no words that will take away the pain. Sometimes the best thing to do is acknowledge the loss. You can say something like, “I heard of your tragic loss. I don’t know what to say, but I want you to know I care.” Then be okay with any awkward silence which may follow. Give him time. And listen if he talks. The most important thing is to see him. Don’t avoid him. I hope this helps.

It did help. We sent a card from the clinic saying almost exactly that.

I don’t know why, but I kept thinking of T, especially while showering in the morning. I kept sending him loving thoughts, over and over, letting him know I was praying for him and sending loving light his way.

The following Saturday morning, my fiancé and I went out for breakfast at Biscuits Cafe. I saw a man at a nearby table that I was almost sure was T. I only saw his profile at first, so couldn’t be sure. He was with what appeared to me to be a supportive group of men, talking and often laughing. At times, the man joined in the laughter. At times, his head lowered, and he appeared to check out and go inside himself.

At one point, his head turned towards our table, and we made eye contact. He recognized me. I quietly whispered to George, “It is him; he recognized me.” T and I stood up at exactly the same time and met between our tables. He asked how he knew me, and I said it was from the chiro clinic. My arms flew out without thought, and he hugged me back. I started to cry, a little. T didn’t. I said, “You have been in my thoughts and prayers.” We pulled apart and held hands. He said, “Thank you.”

We went back to our respective tables, and I haven’t seen T since.

Yet, as George suggested, the energy of love brought T and I together at that particular time, in that particular restaurant. I have no question.

Our thoughts, love, energy and voices are so very powerful. Even while just saying, “You’ve been in my thoughts and prayers” to someone you barely know yet feel love and compassion for all the same.

This is how the world spins around even better.

I hope these tips help you the next time you encounter someone dealing with grief. And if you are in grief, please contact Natalia.

Please spread the love and pass this post along to a friend!

If you’re ready to bring your inner voice into the outer world, text or call 503.409.0421 to claim one of five spaces open for private voice students – in person or on-line.

I sound confident! I didn’t realize how much I needed you. -Dona C

Laura helped me find my truer voice. After just one lesson, I already feel more resonance, and more ease and comfortability in singing. Thank you. -Levi P

Lake Oswego’s Transformational Voice® Teacher (Transformational Voice® is a registered trademark of Transformational Voice® Training Institute, LLC, and Linda Brice),

,

Laura

 

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. A Darned-Near Perfect Day

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. A Darned-Near Perfect Day

A Darned-Near Perfect Day

Today was a darned-near perfect day. I woke up before 7:30, without an alarm. Made a cup of tea and went back to bed, with cat Lady Jane, for my morning inspirational reading time and a brief meditation. By 9:00, I was ready for my on-line meeting with the wonderful women in my Soul-Aligned Mastermind group. Then ran errands and made myself a delicious lunch. My 1:00 voice student had made amazing progress since her last lesson. Startling, even. She’d been doing her homework.

I don’t take credit for this. I credit my student for three things, which she owns with consciousness and awareness. 1) As 2017 turned to 2018, Paivi realized she was no longer going to be the woman standing quietly in the corner, while people asked her to speak up when she talked. She knew her voice was ready to come out, and she was ready to fully express herself in front of people. 2) The work she had been doing with a coach since last fall started to sink in. 3) She scheduled her first voice lesson.

Paivi’s voice now rings out with confidence, clarity and resonance. Her coach commented on it, too. When I experience something like this, I remember all over again why I do what I do. This transformation in Paivi’s voice in such a short period of time is truly remarkable. All the elements came together at just the right time, because she was truly ready.

And, because Paivi and I both had an extra hour after the lesson, we went on a walk together. I share my neighborhood with peafowl who’ve been here far longer than me, and they came out in full display for Paivi today. We enjoyed Mother Nature’s glory for a full 40 minutes, along with inspiring conversation and good exercise.

My 4:00 phone appointment turned into another voice student booking a session for later this month, and then I received an e-mail that New Renaissance Bookshop accepted my proposal to do a workshop there. I suggested we do it next month and am inquiring into best dates/times.

My partner and I are making a simple, delicious, and mostly healthy dinner tonight of grilled chicken breasts, baked potatoes (the Mexican sour cream might not be all that healthy), and fresh green salads. We may watch a movie. Lady will be movie-watching with us on the living room couch.

How could this day have been even more perfect? (I recommend Barbara Sher’s Ideal Day Exercise from her wonderful book, Wishcraft, every chance I get.) If I had just received the direct deposit or check from that $2500 workshop I did last week. If Lady knew how to use the toilet and flush it herself. (I once saw a cat do that, on TV!) If the reservations for my trip to Bali in April (where I will be teaching a workshop) were just confirmed. If my laundry items had come out of the dryer, folded themselves, and put themselves away (after all, as a child I Dream of Jeannie aficionado, a part of me still believes in magic.)

That’s how my day could have been better. Yet I’m completely content and fulfilled with this day exactly as it’s been. I wish the same for you, my friends.

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Laura Handke’s Transformational Voice® therapy lessons are wonderful! She is a treasure trove of valuable information about voice, speaking, singing and acting. Laura guides you in understanding how your own voice “works” and provides easy practices to do between appointments. I want to thank Laura for being a very warm, encouraging, supportive vocal coach. I warmly recommend her. -Paivi Panttila Vargas

Authentically Yours, Laura

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. When Something Really Hits You

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. When Something Really Hits You

When Something Really Hits You

When I was on vacation with my parents and brother the summer before my senior year of high school, we went to a show at The Pink Garter Theatre in the city known then as Jackson Hole, Wyoming. (The theatre is still there now, in Jackson, as a music venue with concerts and a cocktail lounge!) Just nine days before my 18th birthday, we saw their production of Shootin’ Irons & Petticoats, a rollicking western musical.

I was utterly transfixed throughout the entire show. My heart connected with the performers, the music, the theatre itself, the rest of the audience…the entire experience…in a way that filled me with deep appreciation and even deeper longing. If only, I thought, if only that could be me up there one day. I wanted the show to go on forever, to never end. It wasn’t a sad show – quite the opposite – filled with upbeat numbers, dancing, and a lot of comedy. Yet Mom reminded me years later that I cried when it ended.

Of course, I did.

This is how music, performance…voices…can touch us. Reach us. Transform us.

Yet, somehow, after high school, I let my music leave me. Other than one college performance and playing piano and singing to myself when I could, I didn’t get on stage again, or seek vocal training, until my 40’s. I found acting teacher Jo Dodge at the Pentacle Theatre in Salem, Oregon. And then, in Portland, I was introduced to the founder of Transformational Voice®, Linda Brice, and eventually became a certified Transformational Voice® teacher.

It’s never too late, or too early, to learn to express your inner voice in the outer world.  How would you like to do that now? Let us know on the blog!

A new student graced my voice studio earlier this week; here’s what the talented and creative 18-year-old Levi had to say:

Laura helped me find my truer voice. After just one lesson, I already feel more resonance, and more ease and comfortability in singing. Thank you. -Levi P.

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Authentically Yours, Laura

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. It’s All Relative (Including Your Relatives)

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. It’s All Relative (Including Your Relatives)

It’s All Relative (Including Your Relatives)

It’s been raining here in the Willamette Valley. Raining hard. People often complain about it. I’m often one of those people.

Until I remember my childhood in South Dakota, when there were summers of drought, and farmers didn’t know if crops would survive so they’d have grain to sell come harvest. The smell of rain-drenched earth after a parched summer, running through mud-puddles, and basking in the glow of rainbows dipped into twilight is as entrenched in my memory as the feel of a horse under my body.

Everything is relative, including our relatives. Have you ever talked about a gathering with family members or friends, weeks, months or years after the event, and learned everyone at the party had a completely different take on the same conversation or happening?

I’ve made a commitment for the year of 2018 – to start becoming the best vocalist, the best singer, I can be. And therefore, be able to give even more to my vocal students.

Can you imagine what would happen if I compared myself to Barbra Streisand or Lady Gaga?

I can. I would immediately shut down.

Everything is relative. My personal vocal practice is my own personal best…it has nothing to do with other professional singers or other professional voice teachers.

Where do you want to proclaim your personal best in 2018, knowing it’s not a competition – only a deep desire in your heart?

Here’s a sample of my work: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8alNyT2Siw. If you like it, please like it on YouTube! Grab your stage and OWN it – speak like you want to be heard! Bring me on board for your next keynote or workshop.

What people are saying about HONE Your Message:

I came away with a much better understanding of how to do, and effectively use, belly breathing to speak confidently, efficiently and effectively. -Caroline M.

Laura is a skilled teacher and observer of her students. -Anita E.

Supportive, fun, safe…and immediately applicable tools and skills. -Barbara M.

Laura truly connects with her audience. She makes people feel comfortable and safe to be vulnerable and find their authentic voice. Thank you. -Angela P.

Laura was fantastic and empowering. -Laura D.

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Authentically Yours, Laura

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. Why We Sing

Simply Authentic…Your Soul Voice is Calling. Why We Sing

Why We Sing

Every year, I choose a book to support me in opening my days on a positive and inspiring note. Have you ever tried this? I highly recommend it. In the morning, make a cup of tea or coffee, then go back to bed, prop up your pillows, and read something inspirational, instead of checking your e-mails and on-line feed first thing. In 2017 (for the second time), I chose Mark Nepo’s  http://marknepo.com/ The Book of Awakening.

As a certified Transformational Voice® teacher, speaker coach, and creator of HONE Your Message, Nepo’s December 29th segment particularly speaks to me, and I suspect you will love it, too. Sit back, relax, and drink in Nepo’s amazing words about why we must sing.

December 29

Sing Then

As long as we sing, the pain of the world cannot claim our lives.

Through cancer, through growing up in America, through learning about the innumerable struggles for freedom around the world, all different but the same, through being with the people of South Africa, it has become very clear that giving voice to what is inner is essential to surviving what is outer. No matter where we live or whom we love, no matter what we want or what we can’t have, this is the lesson I can’t repeat or learn enough.

When everything in life presses from outside of us, we have no choice but to sing like scared children relying on their song to stop the pain, the way that fire stalls the cold. This is the secret of all spirit, why it cannot stay inside, but must be brought from within us into the world. For it is the song from within that keeps the pain of living from snuffing our lives. It is the song from within ignited, again and again, that keeps the world going. When we do this for ourselves, we do it for every child not yet born.

As night and day take turns on this massive Earth spinning nowhere, the song we share within takes turns with the catastrophes of living. When we go silent, the age goes dark.

Sing, then, in whatever tongue your pain has taught you. Sing, though you have no training and never went to school. Sing, because the cry from all the places you have kept quiet will stall the cold, will soften the danger, will keep the world possible for one more turn…

Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Moment

And…please…contact me, or another certified Transformational Voice® teacher, if you would like training with your singing voice. Here’s a sample of my work: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8alNyT2Siw. If you like it, please like it on YouTube! Grab your stage and OWN it – speak like you want to be heard! Bring me on board for your next keynote or workshop.

What people are saying about HONE Your Message:

I came away with a much better understanding of how to do, and effectively use, belly breathing to speak confidently, efficiently and effectively. -Caroline M.

Laura is a skilled teacher and observer of her students. -Anita E.

Supportive, fun, safe…and immediately applicable tools and skills. -Barbara M.

Laura truly connects with her audience. She makes people feel comfortable and safe to be vulnerable and find their authentic voice. Thank you. -Angela P.

Laura was fantastic and empowering. -Laura D.

If you found this post helpful, please spread the love and pass it along to a friend!

Authentically Yours, Laura